Anger !

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim..

I just want to share something that i recently knew about how to manage anger especially to those who are short tempered like me. 

Perhaps most of us are told to take wudhu' whenever we're angry and yup! It is true that wudhu' can calm us down. But have you encounter a situation where you take wudhu' but your anger is not gone? For me, yes, it did happened. If that is the case then we better check our heart purity. 

 We always heard 'preventing is better than cure'. Same goes to anger. It's better to prevent yourselves from getting angry than subsiding the anger as anger can't be easily remove. Preventing our anger starts by taking care of our hearts.

So here I want to share tip on how to manage one anger and it is taken from one of ustaz nouman ali khan's videos. 

I dont rememeber exactly what he said in the video, but here it is what i understand and remember.

It is extracted from verse 36-37 surah ash- shura. 

'So whatever thing you are given, that is only a provision of this world's life, and what is with Allah is better and more lasting for those who believe and rely on their Lord.'

'And those who. shun the great sins and indecencies, and whenever they are angry they forgive.'

Allah says that what He has is better than anything in this world-houses, cars, money, company and etc. Why Allah mention about this? What it has to do with managing one's anger? ( i too wondered when i first watch the video). 

First, Allah wants us to detached our heart from what the temporary dunya offers us so that we dont be stressed out in chasing for wealth or anything that human nowadays look for. What happen when one is stress from failing to have what he/she wants in this life - good grades in test, prestigious job, beautiful wife, a pretty face/body? One will be emotionally unstable, that is for sure. Then, it is easy for one to snap whenever someone says something they dont like to hear especially about themselves. 

So by detaching our heart from this dunya, and believe that what Allah has is greater and better than what we want to have in this Dunya, we will be able to live happily this frantic race of the world. No stress. No sadness.

Second, Allah says about preventing oneself from major sins and any form of indencencies. What is meant by indecencies here is to take care of one's urge to do something bad- look at sexy lady, watch movies (extensively), eat excessively( keep eating although you're already full) and any bad thing that you can think of. I'm sure there is a lot. When we can take care of our small urges (emotion) then it is easier for us to take care of the big ones like anger. 

Then, 'whenever they get angry they forgive'. It means those who believe what Allah has in the akhirah is much much better than what is present in this world (in previous verse), is one who forgives when he's angry. It is not that we can't payback the devil done to us  'And the recompense of evil is punishment like it, but whoever forgives and amends, he shall have his reward from Allah; surely He does not love the unjust. Ash-shuraa:40) To put in simple worlds, if one's main focus is to attain Allah's blessing and believe that what Allah has is much better than this entire world, one can never feel preoccupied and frustrated or angry about stuffs they dont have and people who hurt them. Subhanallah. That's all what i remember and understand from his lecture. For mor elaborative explaination watch his video on youtube - Controlling anger - nouman ali khan

Ps: if there is wrong information on this matter please do correct me :)